The High Cost of Weddings: 4 Consequences to Newlyweds

By Steve Davis, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER ™



My wife and I have four children – all boys – and I used to joke that this was a strategic financial planning decision because it meant that we wouldn’t need to pay for any wedding expenses in the future.

The short-lived Kardashian celebrity wedding covered by the E! Network was said to have cost $10 million. And TLC’s “Say Yes to the Dress” routinely shows brides and their parents forking out tens of thousands of dollars for a dress. According to Bride Magazine, the average cost of a wedding in 2010 was $26,501. Sure, that’s chump change next to the Kardashian debacle, but seriously, 26 grand? Are you kidding me? These days the average cost of a wedding almost makes a year at Northeastern University affordable.


Running of the Brides at Filene's Basement


The news gets worse for frugal brides: just last week Filene’s Basement filed for bankruptcy protection. For years, Filene’s advertised an annual bridal sale where dresses sold for $249 to $649 – a huge markdown from full retail prices of $900 to $9,000. Now that the 102-year-old retailer is closing its doors, their annual “Running of the Brides” event is a thing of the past.

The cost of dresses, photographers, caterers, flowers and honeymoon all add up.  So what kind of impact does this sort of expense have on newlyweds? Here are four consequences:

1. Debt.
Some couples start their marriage deeply in debt. Sure, it’s not unusual for most twenty-somethings to have school loans to pay back, but adding debt to pay for an expensive wedding compounds the problem and often strains a couple’s resources and adds stress to a young marriage.

Couples can avoid wedding debt by listing what they really want and identifying what they can do without. Learning to prioritize is a key financial skill for couples to develop. What is more important... to have a down payment on a house or a big wedding with a costly open bar? If you can afford both, great! If not, make some concessions: invite fewer people, change the venue, use a DJ rather than a band. In all cases, couples should make a budget and avoid wedding debt by putting money aside. The old wedding custom of “something borrowed something blue” wasn’t referring to bank or credit card debt.


2. Lost Opportunity.
The biggest cost of a wedding isn’t the actual dollar spent on the event itself. It’s all the money you could have accumulated if it were saved instead. Economists call this “Opportunity Cost”. Here’s a hypothetical example using a 25-year old bride who invites fewer people to her wedding and consequently cuts her wedding expenses by $10,000. If she saves that $10,000 over her working life of 40-years, her savings could grow to more than $70,000 assuming a five percent interest rate. Some would say that the true cost of inviting the extra guests wasn’t $10,000, but $70,000.

3. Obligation to Dom and Dad.
I often advise parents that they should not create a retirement problem down the road by trying to solve a wedding funding problem for one of their kids today. According to wedding planners, the tradition of having the bride’s parents pay for everything is slowing fading away. Why? Because newlyweds realize that if mom and dad can’t afford to pay for their own retirement, they’re going to have to have to invite mom and dad to live with them, or pay for their assisted living.


4. Crime?
Here’s a weird story. Earlier this year, police say that one Pennsylvania couple resorted to crime in order to pay for their wedding. April Carter, 24, and Joseph Russell, 23, allegedly stripped more than $7,000 worth of copper wire from 18 utility poles and then sold it to a salvage company. PennPower officials inspected the area and found that transformer ground wires had been cut. Surely there are better ways to plan and pay for a wedding than resorting to theft! I can’t imagine that spending a honeymoon in the clink would be much fun either…

Financial Independence Day

By Steve Davis, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER ™


MANSFIELD, MA:  We recently had a friend from New Zealand staying with us for a few days. One of my sons jokingly asked him, “Andrew, do they have the 4th of July in New Zealand?” He was quick to catch on and replied, “Of course they do, but they don’t celebrate Independence Day.”

Corey Shea Memorial Flagpole, Mansfield, MA

Today, Americans are observing Independence Day. Most of us have been looking forward to this long-weekend because we’re able to enjoy a day off from work and spend our free time with friends and family. And just as we look forward to the 4th of July weekend, most of us look forward to celebrating another type of Independence Day – Financial Independence Day. This, of course, is not a single day free from work, but a period in our lives when we no longer need to work ever again because our expenses are met by unearned income.

While this is a laudable goal, it won’t be achieved by all. Some people work their whole life, while others retire early. Some people retire and live comfortably, while others are dependent on children and friends. Here are three tips to help you achieve financial freedom:

Spend less than you earn.
If you’re looking for a good book to read on the beach during this summer’s vacation, check out the 1996 bestseller, The Millionaire Next Door. While this book is now 15-years old, its message is timeless. Authors Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko explain that one of the keys to success is to live within your means. This can be accomplished by earning more – OR – spending less. The theme of the book is that society’s concept of a millionaire is wrong; most actual millionaires live a very simple lifestyle. In general, they are frugal and value achieving financial independence more than displaying high social status. In other words, they don’t try to keep up with the Jones’. After all, the Jones’ may be in debt up to their eyeballs!

Feed your 401k.
One of the most important things you can do to hasten your own Financial Independence Day is to continually save and invest for retirement. Take full advantage of your company’s 401k plan. If your company matches your 401k contributions, be sure to at least contribute the amount they will match; it’s like getting free money! Remember too that the government offers tax advantages to these types of qualified retirement plans. Most contributions are made with pre-tax dollars which means you pay less in taxes. Furthermore, your earnings have the potential to grow on a tax-deferred basis. This means your nest egg may grow quicker because you’re not paying taxes on the account until you begin to take distributions, typically at retirement.

Prepare for emergencies.
If you suddenly discover your home needs a new roof, or if a major appliance or car breaks down, will you have the money available to pay for it? Create an emergency reserve. The amount of your emergency reserve may vary according to the flexibility of your budget and your comfort zone. Bear in mind that this is the money that will see you through financial storms while you maintain a long-term strategy working toward financial independence. Your emergency reserve is not intended to cover all possible risks. For complete protection, get medical insurance, long-term disability insurance and fire protection for your home. Even policies with a large deductible can help if a crisis comes up. You can't avoid emergencies, but living without these types of insurance is an invitation to financial ruin.
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This article was written by Steve Davis and appeared in the column "Talking with Davis about Money Matters" found at http://mansfield-ma.patch.com/articles/financial-independence-day


The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual.

Guest Post: Subtle Signs and Signals

By Sara-Lynn Reynolds

During my kids' hectic teenage years, I often lost sight of my parents' "aging needs."

I wish I had been more available, more observant, more everything, but it just wasn’t possible, since they lived a fair distance from me. Beating yourself up over a lack of parental oversight isn’t productive, so I would like to share some aging signs and tips that might be of help.
Some of these signals may be noticeable to you, though if your parents do not live close, it might be important to contact a friend or two of theirs so that you stay abreast of a possible problem before a crises ensues. Being aware of any changes in the way your parents handle day-to-day chores can provide health clues.

Do you speak to your parents often and actually... (Read the rest of the article here)




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This article was written by Sara-Lynn Reynolds. Sara-Lynn is the Community and Education Liason for Home Instead Senior Care in Attleboro, MA.  For more ideas on starting this type of conversation with your folks, check out this video.
Sara-Lynn is not endorsed by or affiliated with LPL Financial.